Lets talk friendships. I have been going through a little soul searching on this topic lately, and what better place to express it then out in the blog community. I personally enjoy a smaller group of friends rather than a large one. I like to entertain one or two couples at a time rather than an entire party. I love to make connections with people on a one to one basis. At the end of the day my best friend is my husband. He knows me in and out and I always feel happy, confident and safe with him. I know that I can trust him with everything and he is always my biggest supporter.
On a female side of things I have a best girlfriend with whom I have been friends with for 16 years. We have been there for each other through marriage, pregnancies (as luck would have it we were pregnant with both of our kids at the same time), moving, heartbreak, joy, loss and everything in between.
I have a few great friends that I have met through my kids that I absolutely adore. We are at the same point in life, and how much easier is it to get through those school issues and pre-teen dramas when you have a girlfriend to analyze it all with. I also happen to have the world’s most amazing sister in laws that I couldn’t love any more.
But at the end of the day, or week or some crazy months one thing stands out. As my kids get big and I get more busy, I have been finding it so hard to connect with the same group of girls that maybe even 3 years ago would have been my main support group. It gets to be very difficult to invest in relationships outside of your partner and kids without really jeopardizing them. I will only have a few more precious years with my small family before my kids go off and start a life for themselves. And although it may sound selfish I want to spend the most amount of time I can making memories with my husband and children.
I have learned that I can allow myself to have my husband be my best friend. After all he is the only one out of all the people in this world that I have vowed to love and cherish for all time. I don’t need to feel like it’s not “normal” for me to want to be home, or not be with girlfriends all the time. It’s OK if my free time is spent with the same people that I spend it with when I’m “busy” . I have learned that just because I don’t have a group of 10 girls that I am always out and talking to that doesn’t mean that the few friendships I do have are any less valuable. It is different for everyone. I admire the large group of girls that all have connections to each other and seem to make time for everyone. As for me personally at this point I am just so grateful for the few deep connections that I do have, they are all I need to feel fulfilled.
Love, XoXo Julia