Blue Hair Don’t Care

Hi all you lovelies. Second week of the New Year is upon us and I genuinely hope you all are still enjoying all your resolutions and working to make all those dreams reality. Trust me I need just as much encouragement, so I am inadvertently talking to myself here. I just wanted to hop on here and share a little bit of a judgement lesson.

Over winter break my sweet girl decided to dye her hair a beautiful aquamarine color. She had already gone through the process of bleaching it about 6 months back and her ultimate goal was always to add in color. Now my daughter is almost 14, so self expression is very important. Let me also mention that this girl is super involved with our church, loves Jesus to no end, is on the A honor roll, does not have social media, respectful, kind and truly shuts down judgement about anyone. She has a heart of gold and believes that everyone has something good in them whether we see it or not.

Now, I would also like to say that my husband and I are pretty strict with out kids. That being said, she does not have social media, does not date, sleeps over only at a few close friends’ homes because we know the family. She does not swear, does not lie and really is just a good girl. That’s it, she’s just a good girl.

I say all this because the backlash on the blue hair is ridiculous and shows just how immature and really blind adults are…not kids, adults!!!

Parents will say “how could you let her dye it blue” or “I would NEVER let my child do that. My response is this:

I would never let my child have snap chat and talk to strangers. I would never let my child leave the house with her butt hanging out. I would never let my child spend the night at a home where I did not know the responsible adults. I would never let my child be a bully. I would never let my child disrespect me. You would never let your child have blue hair, but you allow all these other things?

If I have to choose between blue, purple, pink or orange hair over any of the things I mentioned above….goodness bring on the rainbow.

As adults, we should know better. We should be the ones teaching our kids about what truly matters in life, and believe me it is not the color of your hair. I know that raising my daughter to be a good person is what matters. What are we teaching our kids if the measure of being accepted and loved is based on conformity? My prayers for my daughter are that she is strong, caring, kind, loving, faithful, and a God fearing woman. All these things I pray whether she has blond, blue, brown or rainbow hair.

XoXo Julia

Skin Care & Discipline

Hello all you lovelies!!! I know the title is random, but I really couldn’t think of a better one. With it being the New Year, I know we all have resolutions that involve weight loss, drinking more water, being more positive, being patient, saving money, following through on dreams we have been dreaming and taking chances we are all too afraid to take. My New Year resolution is….Washing my face before bed….EVERY night.

I know what you are thinking…come on girl really? That is your main resolution? And although I have a list pages long of goals and things I hope to accomplish……number one is WASHING MY FACE!

Here is why: For me, washing my face at night is the hardest thing. I absolutely dread it. I don’t know why but what I have realized is that when I am disciplined to wash my face every night, I am disciplined in all other aspects of my life.

I know it sounds silly. but think about it. What is the one thing that you do that maybe you don’t like to do but once you do it, it makes you feel like “ok I have my stuff together”. For many it’s working out, for some its cooking a good meal, others it’s not having that piece of chocolate cake, or maybe it’s resisting a purchase.

For me it’s this; washing my face . Even as I type it I’m laughing. Everyone has something right? I wish mine was more exciting haha.

But I am happy to say that we are on day 7 and I am rocking my resolution and with it all my other goals. Because if I can get my butt to that Clarisonic after my days then I know I value my skin and keeping it healthy. In turn the next morning I will:

*wake up and read my bible, to keep me sane and fuel my mind and soul. *work out to keep my body energetic, *eat clean so I can use food as my medicine *spend less so as not to only have more money but to show that I have all I need and I am not controlled by consumerism *have more patience and show more kindness because lets face it we are all just trying to navigate through this life the best we know how. Every one of us could use more grace in our life

And after all that end up back with the Clarisonic at night because I have been disciplined all day leading up to it. Funny how something so little can have such a huge effect.

XoXo, Julia

Busy Busy Busy

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That was us not so long ago….always busy busy busy. Somehow we fell into the trap of modern days society of what our family life should look like. We have a boy so of course he must play a sport every season. We have a girl so of course she must dance all year long. On top of that they surely must take music lessons to give them a variety of activities and lets not forget school clubs and social functions.

I don’t know when being busy became so glorified. Does it make people sound more important or wanted. Does it make you feel like you have more of a purpose than the “not busy” ones. I don’t know….but I do know that it is exhausting and draining. You go go go and once you stop you realize that you are missing out on the very things you are so busy working for.

I am not sure what day or how it happened but I remember sitting at dinner with my husband and saying enough is enough. We were missing our kids. Although we were at every practice, every game and every event it just felt like we were going through the motions of what parenting in America should look like. Coincidentally our kids had the same thought and within a few months of each other had asked if they could not continue with their respective sports for the following season. Their reasons were both the same ” we just want to be kids”.

How simple right? All they wanted was to be home. They wanted to have dinner as a family. They wanted to run and explore outside. They wanted to have spontaneous family dates. They wanted to sleep in on Saturday morning and be present at church on Sundays. It was so simple and yet something that they had been missing out on.

At that moment we had decided that what was best for our family was to pull our kids from all their activities…..not just one but all of them come next season. We have had people question our judgement and our decision but they are our kids and we feel that this is the absolute best thing we can do for them.

Our daughter spent countless hours at dance knowing that her true passion was music and art. Why spend hours at dance when you can be home painting outside with mother nature listening to your favorite record.

Our son hates being competitive in sports but he loves one on one music lessons so why not allow him to have free time to play the drums and have creativity making new beats.

We realized by having our kids be a part of everything, they were getting lost as to who they were created to be. God created them with their own gifts and talents and purpose.

So now we have time. Some days are filled with golfing as a family. Some days are filled with working outside. Some days are filled with board games and riding ATVs around our land and some days are filled with absolutely nothing….and some times those are the best days.

 

Love XoXo, Julia

 

 

A little bit of this and a little bit of that…

Hello all you lovelies. It has been a minute since I have been on here. My PC computer was so frustrating and would constantly turn off/delete/not work that I just was not able to get anything done on it. I had planned on getting a laptop once we moved into our new home in February and start up blogging then but guess what…

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Sweet hubby surprised me with this on Christmas morning. I am so excited. Even though I have no clue how anything on it works I am grateful that it doesn’t have an agenda to freeze every hour.

I hope that everyone had a fantastic Christmas!!! Originally I was going to do a gift post, or a new New Years resolution post but lets face it we have all seen many of those so I decided to just do a random one haha. I feel like everyone is in limbo between Christmas Eve and New Years Day anyway.

This year we decided to give our kids just one large gift, instead of many little ones. The pre teen years have proven to be a hard thing to shop for. Sometimes I miss the days of coloring books and stuffed animals. Although they were spendy the gifts are something that both of them are passionate about so we felt like it was a great investment.

They were both in heaven!!!

After Christmas we took the day to re coup because between the 4:40 am wake up call from the kiddos and a family Christmas of 40 people, we were all exhausted. David left for a snowmobiling trip with his brothers the next day and although we miss him terribly when he goes, I try to make the time I have with the kiddos special. We had lots of friends over and went sledding, which was so much fun!!!

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And after the busy days I treated the kids to a little movie night

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Express was having a major sale!!! So i went and snagged an outfit for a deal that can’t be beat. They don’t have what i got online, I’m thinking all their clearance stuff varies by store. Both of these items are such classic pieces and under $20 each!

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Nordstrom is also having a major sale, I ordered this basic in two colors.

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I’ve been cooking up some major comfort food and loving every minute of it.

Classic home made tomato soup and grilled cheese.

And nothing says comfort food like chili and cornbread

Hope you all lovelies have an amazing New Year. I am excited as to what 2018 has in store for our family. I think 2017 has definitely  been one of faith for me and I just know that the Lord has even greater plans.

See you next year!!!

Love, XoXo Julia

 

Friendships

Lets talk friendships. I have been going through a little soul searching on this topic lately, and what better place to express it then out in the blog community. I personally enjoy a smaller group of friends rather than a large one. I like to entertain one or two couples at a time rather than an entire party. I love to make connections with people on a one to one basis. At the end of the day my best friend is my husband. He knows me in and out and I always feel happy, confident and safe with him. I know that I can trust him with everything and he is always my biggest supporter.

On a female side of things I have a best girlfriend with whom I have been friends with for 16 years. We have been there for each other through marriage, pregnancies (as luck would have it we were pregnant with both of our kids at the same time), moving, heartbreak, joy, loss and everything in between.

I have a few great friends that I have met through my kids that I absolutely adore. We are at the same point in life, and how much easier is it to get through those school issues and pre-teen dramas when you have a girlfriend to analyze it all with. I also happen to have the world’s most amazing sister in laws that I couldn’t love any more.

But at the end of the day, or week or some crazy months one thing stands out. As my kids get big and I get more busy, I have been finding it so hard to connect with the same group of girls that maybe even 3 years ago would have been my main support group. It gets to be very difficult to invest in relationships outside of your partner and kids without really jeopardizing them. I will only have a few more precious years with my small family before my kids go off and start a life for themselves. And although it may sound selfish I want to spend the most amount of time I can making memories with my husband and children.

I have learned that I can allow myself to have my husband be my best friend. After all he is the only one out of all the people in this world that I have vowed to love and cherish for all time. I don’t need to feel like it’s not “normal” for me to want to be home, or not be with girlfriends all the time. It’s OK if my free time is spent with the same people that I spend it with when I’m “busy” . I have learned that just because I don’t have a group of 10 girls that I am always out and talking to that doesn’t mean that the few friendships I do have are any less valuable. It is different for everyone. I admire the large group of girls that all have connections to each other and seem to make time for everyone. As for me personally at this point I am just so grateful for the few deep connections that I do have, they are all I need to feel fulfilled.

Love, XoXo Julia

Express and Lunch

It’s that time of year when everything seems to be going in hyper speed. End of the school year, dance competitions, beginning of sports, tons of work and of course all those beautiful days that you just want to soak in as much as you can. In addition to all the wonderful adventures and memories that summer holds, we have been blessed to buy land and build our forever home. The excitement is too much for me to even express. Never in my wildest dreams did I think this would be possible, but good thing our God’s plans are so much grander than our silly little dreams. I’ll be documenting the building process through the blog and Instagram, but for now all we have is a large piece of dirt and a blueprint.

I went shopping with my girlfriend this past weekend and got the cutest outfits for summer. Most of my shopping actually happened at Express. I don’t buy a ton there so I was surprised I had found so many cute and simple things for summer. Here are a few of what I scored on their Memorial Day sale.

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I have been eyeing this dress since I saw it on Instagram a few weeks ago but I had no idea it was at Express. Imagine my excitement when there it was. Of course I snatched it up! I also got a few pairs of jeans. Even though I was shopping for summer clothes, I always buy jeans if I see a pair (or 2) that I like.

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Love the distress on these jeans and the fit couldn’t be more perfect.

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I have been excited about trying the frayed bottom jeans. I think I may have to trim the fray just a tad for it to work for me.

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This shirt is so soft I bought it in two colors!

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This shirt is perfect with jeans, shorts or jean skirt. I got mine in a pale pink and cannot wait to wear it.

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This soft tie front shirt is super cute with some high waisted jeans.

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Also grabbed these Guess sandals for more casual days.

Now that summer is officially here I have been working on re vamping my grocery and meal planning ideas.  I love Danielle Walker’s Against All Grain .My family loves her Sesame Orange Chicken along with many other favorites.

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My kids also love tacos, so we usually have them about once every 2 weeks or so.

And the best is when you can sneak in a mini lunch date with your love on the patio with a delicious spread like this one.

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Love, XoXo Julia

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It has been a heck of a week. Feels like I’m running on a hamster wheel and obviously not getting anywhere fast. And then I look on my calendar as to whats to come, and a sense of panic comes over me. I have a very bad habit of taking on too much. For some reason I have convinced myself that I can do it all, plus add in a few other things for good measure. I go go go and then one day I just run out of gas and boom my engine blows up. Like my analogy there? So I am trying to figure out a way to still do it all but without all the mental craziness that goes along with it. If any of you super moms have advice on this please please share it with me!

Buuut the show must go to so, unto the Friday Favorites this week!!! I mean I still have favorites even on weeks when I lose my mind.

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Shay’s over at MixnMatchMama’s recipes never disappoint. I loved this on a busy Thursday night!

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It is supposed to be low 70’s this weekend and that makes this girl super happy. I am so excited for fall clothes, fall smells, fall leaves…just all this fall.

 

I put on a long sleeved shirt and booties this past weekend for a dinner out. It was still too hot, but for the hour I did have it on, I loved it!

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This man right here..I am so grateful that I get to do life with my best friend.

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I am loving these 90 Degrees leggings/yogas. They wash perfect and are super comfy for all those workouts and spontaneous trips to the grocery store.

 

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Don’t know that this is a favorite…but I am putting it on here for my own accountability. I need to get my stuff together ya’ll. It has been a very fun summer full of great friends, lazy pool days and tons and tons of food. I am making an exercise plan and meal plan to start in the next few days. Hoping to get back down to my ideal weight within the next month or so. I am thinking of doing updates throughout the week, but haven’t fully decided how I’m going to do it yet. I’ll keep you updated.

Well that’s all for this week. See you Monday for the weekly wrap up!

Love XoXo, Julia